I was hanging around with some of my friends and one of them said, “Hey, Anh Thao you would make a great girlfriend.”
I was taken aback.
Did she just said what I think she said? Maybe she meant a great boyfriend. I could definitely feel good about that.
I wanted to make sure she meant to say girlfriend, so I clarify, “Did you just say I would make a great girlfriend?”
She responds, “Yes. Like for slumber parties. You’re very neutral. You blend in well.”
I definitely regret getting clarification, because without a doubt she meant it.
I guess the positive side to this is, I wouldn’t mind attending a slumber party where everyone is wearing panties. I would bring my tighty whitey’s.
Her comment really got me thinking and in some ways it makes sense.
First of all, people say I’m super feminine for a guy and for the longest time I didn’t even notice it about myself. But now I admit that I am.
I enjoy pampering myself with bubble baths, massages, and trips to kingspa. I enjoy shopping and dressing myself up. I spend way too much time checking myself in the mirror.
Second of all, I notice I love the company of ladies over guys any day.
It’s not because I find girls cute and want to be surrounded by hot, sexy ladies all the time.
I find that when you talk with a girl one-on-one, they are more likely to open up to you. And I’m addicted to that.
Its really interesting because with a good amount of my “girl” friends, I know them two different ways. I know them based on a group setting and a one-on-one setting.
It’s almost like know two different people. I know that I act different in group settings as opposed to one-on-one and so do they. Some of my “girl” friends, I don’t even talk to them in a group setting. We only do one-on-ones and treat each other like acquaintances in group settings.
I also notice that with certain people, I am more comfortable revealing certain aspects of myself that I wouldn’t with someone else.
All this translate to a myriad of friendships, sometimes with the same person.
Another thing I notice about guys is I tend to bond with them as long as we are doing something.
Guys don’t sit down and talk about emotions, feelings, worries, or things you hide deep inside of you. Guys sit down and talk about sports, job, money, cars, … anything except what’s deep inside.
Guys enjoy companionship, but only when it directed toward a goal. For instance, I notice I connect really well with guys when we are playing volleyball. Whether we win or lose, the act of working together through wins or losses, creates a relationship that can’t be replicated anywhere else.
Girls on the other hand, don’t need to be doing anything. Girls just need to know that you will listen and that you won’t share their secrets with the whole world. If you can do those two things, most girls will open up to you.
Once girls open up to you, there’s almost no boundaries to what they will share. Insecurities, worries, anger, jealousy, frustration, … anything that goes inside a woman’s intellect and emotions.
Talking to girls, I feel like I’m allowed into a very dark and deep place inside their soul.
It feels good to be trusted on that level and it doesn’t happen every time you sit down and talk with them.
I have sat next girls who have broke down crying talking about their boyfriends or ex-boyfriends. Sometimes I don’t even know what to say, but I’ve learned that saying nothing is usually the best response.
They mainly need someone there to listen.
I guess my friend knew what she was talking about when she said I would make a great girlfriend. I just never heard anyone say that to me, so I was surprised.
First admitting that I’m feminine and now that I’m great girlfriend material … what’s next … sex change?