A couple of months back, I was trying the whole online dating thing when I found out about “How About We” app.
The way it works is you just make a post about what’s your ideal date.
The post can go something like this: “How about we …
- Grab some coffee at starbucks.”
- Hangout at the pub and play some pool.”
- Go to a Texas Rangers game.”
You put something up there. If someone’s interested they’ll click on a button and you’ll get a notification saying someone’s down for some coffee with you.
You on the other hand can also browse people’s “ideal date” posts and respond to those dates if you’re interested.
Posting and browsing is free, but if you want to communicate with anyone to setup a date, you’re going to have to sign up for their membership.
Being the cheap and frugal person that I am, I decide against paying for anything that doesn’t guarantee results. For all I know, this website could be a scam.
As an alternative, I tried to beat the system. Or rather I found a loophole. I posted the typical date idea with one small addition.
“Let’s grab dinner and entertainment at Dave and Busters. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org, if you’re interested.”
Since the app charges you to communicate, I decided to bypass that step by including my own form of communication in the post.
Obviously, I realized that I was probably violating some kind of “how about we” rules/policies. If everyone decided to do what I did, “how about we” would never make any money from all their hard work.
Within a half day, I got a nice email from their technical support saying that they deleted that post because I’m not supposed to post any personal form of communications and asked me nicely to refrain from posting anything like that in the future.
They busted my chops, but my futile attempt to beat the system actually produce some results. To be exact, it produced one result.
I got an email from one person who was interested in going on a date with me.
After going back and forth introducing ourselves to each other, she sent me the following email:
Well I would prefer we meet up immediately (meaning in the next few days). I realized what better way to know if I want to get to know that person more? I do ask that you post a pic with todays date so I know it’s a recent pic (I would do the same for you), it just eliminates the chances of us meeting up with a completely different person.
Two things stood out to me in this email. First of all, she wants to meet immediately, which makes sense to me. No use in going back and forth emailing, if you don’t enjoy each other’s company.