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Extroverted Introverts

One of my facebook friends recently posted this online article called “18 Struggles of Having An Outgoing Personality But Actually Being Shy & Introverted“.

After reading the article, I felt certain points rang true for me.

“#17. You prefer to travel alone, but meet up with people once you’re there.”

  • Every single month, I try to visit my sister in Houston.  At the end of this year, I plan on driving to California (a total of 21 hours of driving) all by myself.  As an introvert, I don’t view long road trips as a daunting or dreadful task.  I look forward to them and try to make the drive as enjoyable as can be, by burning some new songs, downloading some new audiobooks, or making some few scenic stops along the way.

“#16. You’re at your happiest in places like coffee shops and cafés: surrounded by people, but still closed off and keeping to yourself.”

  • I always bring my headphones while I’m at Starbucks.  That way, I can be around a full coffee shop and still feel excluded.  I frequent Starbucks at least once a week and always feel productive when I’m there.  I guess a small part of me enjoys seeing people coming and going.  And a big part of me revels in the seclusion that is promised to me while I drown myself in my music.

  “#7. Dating is weird, because you’re smiling and laughing and talkative at dinner, and then you don’t want to answer their texts for four days, because like, you just want to be left alone…”

  • My alone time can sometimes be mis-interpreted as a lack of interest in the opposite sex.  I remember my last girlfriend wanted to break up with me because she didn’t even feel like we were dating.  I guess I enjoyed my alone time too much.  There are times where I get too comfortable in my personal space, that I forget about the other person.

“#4. When you do choose to grace a party with your presence, you are the life of it. You’re dancing on the table and doing body shots until 3 a.m.”

“# 5. … You then retreat into three days of complete solitude to recover.”

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The Art of Hustling

Rome, Italy

Tourist attractions are usually filled with people looking to making an extra buck at the cost of the tourist.

For example, I went to Europe during college.  While visiting Italy, we went to the town square with tons of artists painting, booths selling souvenirs, and corner cafe selling drinks.  I was wandering on my own and this fellow came up to me.

He seemed friendly and asked me to hold up my wrist.  In a matter of seconds, he quickly created a wristband.

I didn’t think anything of it, assuming that perhaps this is a local custom to welcome tourists.

After finishing the knot, he said, “10 Euros please”.

I thought he was playing with me, so I said, “What do you mean 10 Euros?  I don’t want to buy this.”

He kept calm, pointed at the bracelet, and said “Bracelet, 10 Euros.”

I wasn’t going to pay for a cheap bracelet that I didn’t even ask for.

Feeling upset, I tried to take off the bracelet and give it back to him, but he just shook his head and said, “No.  That’s yours.  10 Euros for that.”

I didn’t like where this was headed, so I looked around for my tour group but as soon as I tried to walk away, two other guys came and blocked my route.

The newcomers started talking with the bracelet dude.  I could tell they all knew each other.  And I could tell there was no easy way out for me.

I looked around.  No one I knew.  All alone in a strange country.  I had no idea who I was dealing with.

I reluctantly shelled out the 10 Euros.

I left the town square vowing never to put myself in that situation again.



Las Vegas, Nevada

During the summer of 2014, my friends decided to visit Las Vegas for a friend’s bachelor party.  We went through the motions as far as what Las Vegas had to offer.

Gambled our money away.  Got Drunk.  Splurged on fancy restaurants.  Lost More money at other casinos.  Made promises to each other not to lose again.  Then lose even more the next time.

Since it WAS a bachelor’s party, we had to squeeze in a customary visit to the strip club.

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Putting Yourself Back Together

I’ve been single for a while, but I have my moments of weakness for the opposite sex.

What that really means is, I’m crushing.

Crushing for me happens easily, especially when I don’t know that person well.  I just happen to see them every now and then because they are a friend of a friend … of a friend.

So they’re not really a friend, but rather an acquaintance.  It’s easy for me to admire someone, if I don’t have the slightest idea of who they are.  They possess a “dark and mysterious” trait that piques my interest in them.

What makes this crush even more enticing then previous crushes is … I probably shouldn’t be crushing on her.  Let’s just say, the more time I spend crushing on this person … the deeper the hole I dig for myself.  And one day, I’ll be the one who has to pick myself after falling into this deep hole.

Let’s just say that if this whole situation was based on the Twilight series, she would be Bella.  I would be playing Jacob, not Edward.  Sadly the role of Edward has already been filled.

Having said that, I can’t help it.  I can’t help it that every single time we hangout in groups, there’s always some type of interaction between us that makes me feel like I’m falling for her again.

Even though I know I shouldn’t be falling for her.  Even though I told myself the day before that, I’m not going to go weak for her again.

I’ll go hangout in the group.  Me and her will have our moments of joking around, talking, and some harmless flirting.  It’s not even noticeable to the the group.  And I’m pretty sure she doesn’t even realize I’m crushing on her.

But I am.

And what usually happens after the group hangout is I spend the next days just mesmerized by those brief moments of interactions that we had.  Sometimes it can last more than a week.

I replay every shared moment, every word that was exchanged, every single sound of her laughter.  It’s the only way I can keep the moment from ending, even though it already ended the moment we said, “See ya later.”

I will say this though.  The quicker I learn to get over her and move on with my life.  The sooner everything goes back to normal.  No matter what happens between us during the group hangout, life always goes back to the way it was before we hanged out.

I actually dread every group hangout in which I know she will be there.  I should be excited, but how can I be excited about falling for someone who I know can’t workout?

So I dread it.  I build walls leading up to the group hangout.

It’s similar knowing that you will get into a car crash tomorrow.  Doesn’t matter what you do, in the end you’re destined to crash. You can put off driving, but somehow you will be pulled into it.

Since not crashing isn’t an option, you protect yourself beforehand.  You wear a helmet every time you drive.  You place pillows all around you to absorb the impact.  You double the strength of your seat belt.

The logic behind this is … if I know it’s coming, and I can’t prevent, why not put myself in the best situation possible to deal with the crash.  The best situation possible being one where I don’t get hurt as much.  I may end up crashing hard on this person, but the crash doesn’t have to leave me helpless and vulnerable for days to come.

Which sounds kind of crazy.

Because what it really means is, I’m actually trying to get over her … even before we actually hangout.  I’m already prepping myself for the fall, even before it happens.

Most people would just deal with it as it happens, but I’m actually dealing with it before it happens.  Based on history, I’ve learned that the moment it happens … my world gets turned upside so fast … I don’t even realize that I’m crashing.

It takes me a while to do a reality check and tell myself, “Yeah, you need to get over her dude.”

And even then, I might resist the reality check.  I’m quite stubborn sometimes.

I will bare witness to one thing though … my plan is actually working better then expected.

The more I prepare myself before the crash, the quicker I find myself moving on.

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Bridal Shoot: Nikki & Bobby

I found this lovely couple through Craigslist.  Craigslist has plenty of people looking for photographers, but it also has plenty of photographers looking for gigs.

For me, it’s always a hit or miss.  I’d probably send out maybe 10 emails and maybe get 1 response.  You never know who wants you until they want you.

This couple has something special that I wanted for my portfolio which was a wedding dress.  All my other shoots were done in casual attire.  So I was extremely excited for this shoot.

In this photo shoot, I personally wanted to challenge myself through my equipment choice.

Normally, I shoot with a Canon T3i camera & my 24-105 mm f/4L series Lens.

The interesting thing about this combination is that the lens cost $300 more then the camera.  (Body ~ $700 & Lens ~ $1000)

I have two other lens:

  1. 18-135 mm f/3.5-5.6 efs  (~$300)
  2. 50mm f/1.8 (~$100)

For the longest time, I haven’t touched any of these lens.

Why would you use your second-best or third-best lens?

Well I’ve always known that the 50 mm f/1.8 is great prime lens and supposedly it’s great for portraits.  The only downside from using the 50 mm f/1.8 is there is no zoom.

That means if I want a close up, I literally have to run 3 feet away from the couple to get my close-up and if I want a shot with the whole landscape, I had to move back like 20-30 feet.  It can be a great workout if that’s what your looking for.

I decided to challenge myself by using only the 50 mm f/1.8.

I could always switch to my more expensive lens, if things didn’t work out … but I actually forbid myself to before the shoot.

No bailing out on the challenge.

This was a do or die situation for me.  Make the best out of the 50 mm f/1.8 lens or … waste the whole photo shoot and have a really sad couple in the end.

Sometimes I can be quite stubborn with my rules and my criteria.

As it turned out, the pictures came out great.

Here’s a couple of my favorite pics:

As you can see, all three pics are the same location.  I took pictures at other places too such as a pond, hill, and bridge … but this walkway is by far my favorite place.

Before, the couple came, I got a chance to scout out the area and found this little walkway that had perfect lighting.  The trees provided cool shade and the perfect natural frame for the couple.  While at the very end of the walkway, there was an open area that let in all the sunlight.

It’s the perfect combination of shade and lighting that allows the bride & groom to be in the spotlight.

By the end of the photo shoot, I was tired from running around with my prime lens but glowing with joy because I knew I had some great photos.

I was extremely proud of myself for sticking with the challenge of using only my cheapest lens.  It proves that you don’t need the most expensive lens to capture beautiful pictures.

This is a link to the whole album:  https://photoscripts.wordpress.com/couples-2/wedding/

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