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Introverts Unite!

I saw this pic on reddit a few weeks back.  (reddit post link)

 

 

Reading the captions made me giggle.  Thinking of how silly introverts are.  Uniting separately in their own homes.  Hehe.

The humor slowly faded when I realized that I am also an introvert.



Introverts + Strangers

As an introvert, I see social gatherings as a challenge.  It takes tremendous willpower, courage, and motivation to get me to go somewhere with a bunch of strangers.  Especially if the expectation at the event is that you should mingle with everyone there.

The way I feel about meeting strangers is similar to people’s mindset when dealing with someone who has the plague.  There is a distaste in your mouth.  Your stomach feels queasy.  You try to keep a distance from them.

With the plague, people have a good reason to act like this.  But with an introvert like myself, what am I so afraid of catching?

If anything, I might catch their infectious enthusiasm, humor, or wisdom.  There’s plenty of awesome people out there who I have yet to meet.

Yet when I’m at an event I always revert to my introverted self.

Perhaps I’m afraid of what people may think of me once we start talking.  At least if I keep to myself, I’ll always be a mystery to them.

Perhaps I have a limit on how many relationships I can juggle at once.  With more people, even if they are just acquaintances, it overburdens my emotional capacity.  Since I’m an introvert and only have a few quality relationships, I go out of my way to protect those few that I do have.  I know how hard it would be to find another one.  So I push others away, to ensure the health of my current relationships.

Perhaps I am a control freak when it comes to my personal space.  At home, I can re-arrange things how I like it.  Everything is predictable when I’m by myself.  Out there, not so much.  I have less control in the real world.  People tend to do things that I least expect.  And I find that extremely intimidating.



Introverts + Family & Friends

I don’t really mind going to places where I know most of the people there like family get-togethers or parties with friends.

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Fun Time Vs Boring Time

What makes the difference between having fun and being bored?

I recently went to an event with a friend.

We were both photographers.

Yet, we had two different experiences.



If you ask him, whether he had a good time or not?

He would say he was bored out of his mind.

If you ask me, the same question.

I would say I enjoyed the event very much.



The difference between me and him lies in how we spent our time.

I was very involved with all the activities.

I volunteered my time, I took charge of certain projects, I took pics as much as I could.

He took a laid back stance, doing as little as possible even when it came to taking pictures.



It almost felt like he was waiting for life to happen to him.

He was sitting at the dinner table waiting for someone to set the table and feed him.

He expected to be entertained and didn’t want to put in any effort.

His expectations were too high, so he was disappointed.



For me time went by really quick due to all the activities I was a part of.

I was in the kitchen getting down and dirty trying to come up with dishes for my guest.

I wanted to contribute to the entertainment and put out as much as I could.

My expectations were low, so even if I didn’t get much out of it, I was still content.



When you wait for life to happen, you are at the mercy of life.

If there’s nothing happening in life, there’s nothing happening with you.

Life is boring when you have to wait for things to happen.

But waiting for things to happen is a conscious choice that you make.



If you wanted to, you could make things happen in life.

You could be proactive and seek to make life more eventful.

As a result, you are making things happen in life for yourself and others.

Instead of waiting in uncertainty for things to happen, you act knowing for certain that things will happen.



A fun time or a boring time depends on whether you want to be the driver or the passenger.

Are you going to allow someone else to drive you around hoping it’s what you want.

Or are you going to take the steering wheel and take everyone for the ride of their life.

A boring time is something that you let happen to you, while a fun time is something that you must make happen for you and/or others.

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The Traffic Lights Are Out To Get Me

My friend recently posted this on facebook, “When you’re in a freakin’ rush, all the damn traffic lights seems to be going against you!  Arggg!!”

Which is both funny and true at the same time.

I think the main reason you feel it is going against you is because you want so badly for it to be green.

The longer it takes to be green, the more you feel it is resisting your wants.

The reality of the situation is that the traffic light neither likes or dislikes you.   It isn’t purposely going against you today, just to annoy you.

It’s actually very fair.  The moment it goes against you, it’s actually allow someone else to go.  And the moment it allows you to go, it’s going against someone else who is in a rush by giving them the red light.

We just feel victimized in that moment, because we are trying so hard to get to our destination and only notice all these stupid obstacles (red lights) in our way.

There are many ways around getting frustrated at red lights …

  1. Plan accordingly.  If you’re not late, why would you rush?  Give yourself some extra time.  Know yourself.  If you always come 10 mins late, next time why not leave 10 mins earlier to counteract your 10 mins lateness.  What’s wrong with being there early?  Oh yeah, you have to wait for them.  Then what’s wrong with waiting for them?  You feel like time is wasted?  If they aren’t important enough for you to wait for them, perhaps you shouldn’t even be there in the first place.
  2. Don’t Rush.  Sh*t happens I know and you can’t plan for everything.  Still don’t rush.  I mean, do all you can, but in the end … everyone is known to be late one time or another.  Sometimes when you are rushing, it actually causes you to be more late … Such as speeding and getting a ticket.  Or running a red light and getting into a car accident.  Getting their on time isn’t worth risking your life.
  3. Reschedule.  People are understanding.  People make mistakes.  People have a calendar with tons of free space.  You could be in the next open slot.  I’d rather reschedule then waste my time waiting for you stuck in traffic … again!
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